Brother Dan!

So I was driving my squad home two nights ago and sitting in a bit of traffic. As usual I was switching radio stations. If there is no music I keep switching. I rarely ever listen to the discussion styled shows.

As soon as I heard “how many children should people be allowed to have” – my antenna went up and I listened in. Brother Dan was doing relatively well at some point and had 7 children. Hard times have come about and brother Dan can barely feed the kids one meal daily. Should there be a law like what they had in China to limit the number of children people can have?

What is the effect of folks having more kids than they can educate and care for? Our society is currently a keg of gun powder waiting to explode given the high rate of youth unemployment talkless of underemployment.

Callers called in to express their opinions

Caller 1(male): Brother Dan is careless why does he need 7 kids? I asked my wife to give our 2 kids age gap of 2 years.

Caller 2 (female): the woman lacks self esteem and ambition. Why is she having so many kids? There is free family planning so why is she having so many kids? Doesn’t she have dreams to work and build herself? Having kids takes a lot out of women.

Caller 3 (male): he should send some of the kids to go and be househelps. You can’t regulate how many kids folks should have.

Caller 4 (male): Nigeria should have a welfare system where such kids are taken away from Brother Dan and catered to by the state.

My Opinion: folks need to sit and calculate the true cost of raising kids properly. In this environment that one needs to give their kids extra advantage as much as possible. Meaning education is probably the biggest ticket item of things to do. And why create so many mouths to feed? I understand that children are emotional currency but frankly outside of self fulfilment and the Bible saying go forth and multiply, whats the reason to have kids and more than one can easily cater for at that?

IMHO I think three children is more than enough in this day and age. We are not in a farming economy where one needs many hands. No matter how rich one is, it is also difficult to share your love and attention among 7 kids. Heck I feel drained with my two and I have as much help as I can possibly justify….and it triples the cost of running my home.

How many children should people be allowed to have? And should Nigeria have a law in place?

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7 Comments on Brother Dan!

  1. On the surface it appears Brother Dan has too many children, but this opinion raises an important question, one which you’ve rightly asked: How many children should one have? This question of course, is hard to reach to a generalized answer. Till we know other important factors, it may be futile trying to establish how many children one should have.However, I must add that Good family planning is not just wise but prudent too.

    I reckon Nigeria has other important worries to focus on than this issue.

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    • Important issues like what Chrisyinks? We cannot cater to our current population dynamics- it is evident. We are not exactly a progressive economy.

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      • While I agree that the seemingly unsustainable population dynamics present a challenge, other pressing challenges like corruption, poor leadership selection process, unemployment, epileptic power supply, lack of a rule of law, broken educational systems, poor health infrastructure and many more present urgent problems that if we could fix could see us leap in our development.

        Our landmass, abundant natural resources and many other positives if optimally utilized could still see us take care of our current population as it stands.

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  2. I agree with you, Miss Pynk.. Three is just OK. In fact, the third child should be the ‘mistake’. School fees ain’t beans ooo. And then, no matter how wealthy one is, it’s only wise to have children you can conveniently take care of when the chips are down.

    About the law, even if it exists…… Ko le werk.

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  3. Funny…my husband and I had this discussion recently. Prior to marriage, I wanted 4 children…mainly because I had 4 siblings and had a lovely childhood growing up with them…even till now, I consider my siblings to be one of life’s greatest blessings to me.

    However, now I’m married and mother of 2…I’ve come to realise that our generation is very different from our parents’. The cost of raising one child is alarming. My husband and I really want more children, but the truth is that for now, we can’t afford to (financially, emotionally, physically). Even career wise…having kids sort of sets a woman backwards.

    Sigh.

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  4. 2 kids are okay.

    I listened to that show, the one who advised that other kids be sent as maids needs Jesus.

    Child bearing should be regulated. Nigeria’s populating is posing serious risks . If not well managed, we are looking at another potential crisis in the not to distant future.

    This is where educating women is “supremely important”.

    Educating womem solves half of the problem.

    The average girl on the north gets married at 12. by Age 15/16 she already has 2 kids and/ or VVF, and the cycle continues.

    Around the lekki/ajah axis where I stay, young almajiri girls under 12 are already populating the streets, some with potruding bellys, others flirting , while begging amd repopulting.

    Its a sad case.

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  5. 2 kids are okay.

    I listened to that show, the one who advised that other kids be sent as maids needs Jesus.

    Child bearing should be regulated. Nigeria’s population is posing serious risks . If not well managed, we are looking at another potential crisis in the not too distant future.

    This is where educating women is “supremely important”.

    Educating womem solves half of the problem.

    The average girl in the north gets married at 12. by Age 15/16 she already has 2 kids and/ or VVF, and the cycle continues.

    Around the lekki/ajah axis alone where I stay, young almajiri girls under 12 are already populating the streets, some with potruding bellys, others flirting , while begging and repreducing.
    Young girls under 18 already with kids and they have no education or source of income.

    Sex education, another important factor, I used to think I was “popular in school” as per being a social prefect and knowing stuff.

    As a mentor to young girls, some of the things I hear leaves me speechless for weeks.
    The information young girls especially have about sex is worrisome. The things they ot try….. Hmmmm. Its one thing to talk, its another to really reach them on a deeper level.
    Too much needs to be done.

    What of drugs…..hard drugs I mean. People just have kids and allow society and the streets raise them.

    Its a sad case.

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