A community member wrote the piece below to start a discussion. Sex education and the Nigerian society are often at odds. Let’s read and discuss. As a parent- this topic is of importance to me.
“I think we are no longer in the era of hiding or being shy to talk about sex education with kids. Kids these days are so intelligent,you will be amazed at how well they hold conversations. Parents need to do a better job when talking about sex, no matter how discreet you want to be in calling the word penis and vagina. If you refuse to tell your kids about these body parts, they ll learn it somewhere else and trust me the outcome is always terrible.
I understand that while most of us were growing up our parents didn’t dwell much on sex education but some of us still turn out fine. Parents need to understand the basics of talking about sex to their wards. Discussion on Sex should no longer be seen as an abomination please. I was listening to a group giving a talk on sex education and they were stuttering just because they don’t want to talk about the private parts.
How do you relay the message when you can’t give full information? I left what I was doing and concentrated on what they had to say, but they did a bad job in conveying the real message. You dont tell a girl not to allow a boy touch her without telling her why, if you tell me that as a kid I would definitely be curious and trust me I would find out the reason.
Kids know so much already so the best thing is to just tell them what the internet won’t say, Let them know about sex,tell them what is going to happen if they start having sex at young age. It is annoying when you tell them not to allow boys touch them and not give them the full details. Talk to your boys on sex too,dont leave them out on the discussion. Let them be aware that the changes in their bodies are normal,let the girls know that menstruation is a normal thing. Dont kill the message by saying the old things you were told while growing up because it is not enough compare to what they already know. Tell them everything and let them in on the repercussion of having sex now and if you have a teenager who is already having sex please your duty is to let them know the truth about having sex at a young age and not trying to beat the hell out of them.
Sex is not a taboo,please talk about it. At what age should we have the talk? Who should have the talk with the kids? Mom or Dad? What is your take on sex education?”
Submitted by Kiki O.
As for me, I call it what it is – a vagina. I tell my 14 month olds it is called a vagina. I also make sure I tell them not to allow anybody touch them. I know they are a bit young- but the longer one says the same thing, the more likely it will stick.
Please share your thoughts.
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