Dear Young Woman

 Hey hey hey! 
Dear Young woman, how are you? Do you see the beauty in yourself? Are you confident in your abilities? Are you sure about your direction? Are you allowing other people to sell you their ideas on happiness?

You are grown now, you are somewhat an adult and free to mingle. Are you giggling back at the first young man that tells you he loves you? Are you quick to take off you clothes to make sure you “feel” his love?

Do you love you? You must love you before anybody can love you. Do you know the difference between love and lust? Do you think sex is going to make your love stronger? Let’s even back up, what do you know about sex? Do you only know about the possible pleasures? Are you aware of the high risks involved such as STDs some of which are untreatable or is your biggest worry being a single parent? Do you know anything about birth control? The many options available to you, if you actually have sex and the birth control methods that are not fully fool proof?

Are you aware of the risks involved with abortions? Especially if you live in a country such as Nigeria where abortions are illegal? Even if you live where it is legal, have you considered the psychological aftermath? Can you carry the weight emotionally?

Are you sure of yourself enough to only do the things that you want to do and not the things others want you to do? 

Do you exist to please others or care if everyone likes you or not? Are your decisions or behaviors based on this?

Finally are you confident in your decisions? And your ability to make good ones?

I am considering writing this as a series, if you enjoyed this piece let me know. If not be honest and tell me what can be better or if I should just scrap it.


6 Comments on Dear Young Woman

  1. The questions took me down memory lane. I wasn’t exactly confident in my abilities, and didn’t have my own direction. I just got “bullied” into conforming and taking a certain p path. I had sex ‘cos I hated being looked at as a virgin, and to prove to myself that one could have sex sans emotional ties. Looking back, I had all it took to be exceptional, but…
    Now I try to mentor young ladies, so they don’t make the same mistakes I “rebelliously”, and I’m beginning afresh.
    Please write on Mme. Pynk.


  2. chrisyinks // May 5, 2017 at 23:56 // Reply

    Nice piece!

    However, I feel you covered (with little depth) a broad number of issues. Since you considering this as a series, perhaps covering some of the issues (with a little more depth) in each post might do you more good. Love the light manner in which you approached big concerns.

    PS: What about we guys!!!*sad face*


  3. I love this!


  4. I LOOOVE this…pls continue the series.
    Young women need this.


  5. lauretta // May 13, 2017 at 11:01 // Reply

    I loved it, please continue writing. Very inspiring piece. Thanks.


  6. Yes I love it. Dear young lady do you really love yourself

    Wondering why so many ladies seek validation from outside. Disturbing how babes are quick to rush to ig to exalt men as gods. The hashtags are endless. #bestthingthathappenedtome #myboaz # boneofmybone #bestmanever ….the list is endless. Are you convincing us or yourself.

    Why do you not look at yourself as the prize. sigh. One day we will all learn to be selfish with our love.


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