So you know I am all about my own version of responsible parenting God help me. I refuse to buy toys for my children- a very hardline but it has worked so far. All their toys have been gifts or freebies from certain events or I just make the toys myself (hey Crochet is king) – I may open an online store accessible in Nigeria – will you guys buy? I do buy them books though.
I have so far dodged party questions for the twins first year birthday. I just want them to have their pictures taken, but even with the prices I am seeing for the pictures I am having a rethink. Already working on their prop outfits and stuff but like I said I am having a rethink.
The thing is this, parties cost money, so you cant just throw excercise book, pencil and chewing gum in a plastic bag anymore. Parties have a theme now and the whole party generally follows the theme. I am sitting here thinking maybe my children should only celebrate milestone birthdays like 5 and 10, the others should be parlour events with food and cake.
It’s ok to ask that in place of gifts people donate the money to a cause or bring a book. It gives the gifter, the option to spend as little or as much as they want. For my shower, my SIL asked folks nicely to bring books – new or used instead of cards and to sign them. My children have about a 30 book library right now. For my nephew’s birthday party instead of gifts she asked for folks to donate to his 529 (college savings). You could litterally donate as little as $5.
If you are in the financial services sector in Nigeria all this is a thing. No firm that I am aware of has tapped into the “future” market properly. They have the children’s savings account which generally yields nothing. But no dedicated investment instruments etc for children at least none that are widely advertised. If you know of any please tell us.
This post was inspired by the comment below on a baby app forum.
It just made me think, this child had a better head start than many of her peers. Nigerians we only shout you will be head of your class and not tail etc when in actuality we as parents haven’t fully ensured we give them the landing to aspire beyond.
What are your thoughts on this type of topic? Invest now or wait till they get older to get an inheritance or perhaps God will provide when the time comes? I for starters need to do better and stop thinking about just a college fund and inheritance.
“Giving our kids what we didn’t have is not buying them the things we didn’t have, it’s about creating access to things/events or experiences that can dramatically influence the course of their lives positively”. – OAD.
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