Hey everyone how are you? Let’s talk hair. There is so much argument for “natural” hair these days so many people have gone natural. Everyone has different experiences and drivers in terms of why they went natural.
Imagine my surprise when a 10 year old girl goes “aunty I love your hair, I am working on going natural myself”. This 10 year old is 10 going on 4o so I wasn’t surprised. Then she starts telling me how relaxers are no good and all that – she got her first perm at 7. Her mom has relaxed hair and is mixed race (so she has type 3 hair which is considered easier to manage as the curls are loser), anyway after probing she told me she has been watching natural hair videos on you tube and she is just waiting for her hair to grow out into a ponytail to do her big chop. Her hair is down her back already.
And I started thinking about it. It’s like nobody wants to buy relaxers anymore. The natural hair movement has grown beyond what anyone could have imagined. I went natural after a hairdresser didn’t wash out my relaxer properly and my hair fell out in patches. It wasn’t visible because my hair is like a forest. I switched to texturizers for about a year after that and I realized that my hair never stayed straight for longer than a week anyway. I did better with a Dominican blow dry. Those people can straighten anything.
I had my last texturizer on 19 June 2014. I stopped being scared of my scalp burning and just the every 3 month visit to the salon. I did my big chop on 19 June 2015 and sent my husband into a frenzy. I don’t understand what it is with men and hair. But I felt liberated. I didnt turn into a product junkie after going natural I was one before going natural.
I have been on my journey for almost 3 years and the difference in my hair is ridiculous in terms of body obviously and length. I have about 1.5 inches to make it to bra length and the ridiculous side of my personality is saying to grow it to mid back/ tail bone length by 2019 June. The other part of me is saying I miss the shorter more manageable length and I am considering a big chop again.
I know with all certainty I stopped being attached to my hair when I big chopped and It was a shoulder length fro. All the breeze was blowing through it and all.
I saw a video about relaxers and cancer the other day on Dr. OZ Aand I couldn’t help but wonder.
Are you natural? If yes or no, why that particular choice? Are you at a crossroads?
If you are male what do you prefer on women and why?