Keeping it Real

So often enough we always talk about keeping it real or people who are so real that the word real is ashamed. I saw something that got me wondering. So friends were wishing someone on social media a happy birthday and going on about how real she was and a true friend and all thats good… Ice cream compliments essentially.

Now what grabbed my attention was the real comment. First of all the said praise receiver has bleached within an inch of any melanin left in her body. can you be real and be a bleacher? Or do you have to openly admit to bleaching to be real? Said person has severally denied bleaching but has also been ousted numerous times. so I got thinking.

If we want to gauge realness are people who wear weaves, makeup, hair color etc real? Or are these modifications not considered unreal because they aren’t as drastic? One can argue that to bleach your skin you have to be experiencing some level of self hatred which comes back to me asking can you be ” real” like genuine and down to earth if you don’t even like yourself and had to peel your dermis?

It now leads to the question of whether or not bleaching is comparable to weaves and other more temporary enhancements. Maybe my brain is just tired and needed something to think about.

I hope your week got off to a good start. Please share your thoughts…

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5 Comments on Keeping it Real

  1. Quoting a friend. … sometimes you should be vain. Vain in terms of outward appearance, however, this doesn’t tamper with your personality.

    For me, “real” has to do with your personality which is not tied to your physical appearance.


  2. Clare Henshaw // November 8, 2016 at 10:29 // Reply

    I think because bleaching tends to have adverse side effects on the bleacher, it is termed or seen as quite extreme.

    I am a weave fixer, not a fan of lashes, (except on my wedding day)…I certainly do not consider myself a “fakee” nor do fixing of nails make me one. These are not extreme make overs and they usually may go un-noticed more often, when done in moderation.

    To each his/her own.
    Whatever rocks their boats……


    • chrisyinks // November 8, 2016 at 15:53 // Reply


      This is a trick one to defend. I do believe that fixing weaves, lashes etc… don’t make one unreal. Bleaching may not make one unreal in some terms of the word ‘unreal,’ although it arguably stems from a lack of appreciation of body color and also the inevitable health consequences.


  3. Being real is relative. for me, it is all about the heart and attitude, not the outward appearance.
    Everyone should do what seems good to them, provided they are aware of the consequences.


  4. // November 11, 2016 at 10:45 // Reply

    I kinder always thought the term real refers to ones attitude and personality and not their outward appearance. I think you can be bleached out, wear weaves and false lashes and still be real. And you can be as physically plain as someone like Oby Ezekwesili (for instance), and be fake.


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