I said I wasnt going to turn this blog into a mummy and me type situation and rightfully so…I don’t like to think of my existence as being consumed by any one role in my life be it my profession or relationship to others…but the last 5 weeks of my life have been as a mother to two beautiful baby girls…(I am allowed to be partial they are mine).
So you see in the last 5 weeks I have had varying degrees of help and when I tell you, you need a minimum of 3 people to take care of two babies…it can be manic if one doesn’t apply common sense.
I thankfully sought advice from my older cousin who has twins and joined several twin boards. First thing i learnt was about scheduling- pretty much do the same things for them arond the same time. This was a pain initially because someone like their father always ran to feed and pick them up once they cried..as you can imagine the first week home we were essentially feeding someone at any given time and no one could remember who got fed or changed at what time. And my mom couldnt tell them apart, so she would say she fed A meanwhile it was B….
I went to the store and bought a note book…put four sections and time. Put it in everyones face – feed (type of food – formula, breast milk or breast fed -oz ), diaper – (wet or poo or both). That resulted in less confusion and understanding that one of the babies needed to stop snacking and actually eat…
Next I started baths in the evenings to get them on schedule even if they get messed up during the day. It worked in that I went from maybe 2 hours total of sleep a night to about 4 on average and changing diapers at strategic times- 2x a night.
As for having time for myself, its still a work in progress…I am slowly figuring it out…in that I dash out when they sleep. When they cry at the same time it’s somewhat challenging because I have to identify whose need is greater- sometimes the baby that cries the loudest gets my attention. And their cries are very different.
In the last 5 weeks, I have been pissed on, farted on, shat 😂on, vomited on etc. My section scar has healed for the most part- I really don’t feel the need to snap back body wise – even though i think i have lost 40 or more of maybe the 60lbs based off just running behind this twosome.
The key advice i have for anyone praying for twins- pray for grace and resources to take care of them…I have heard both my girls scream at the same time and I have wanted to cry or just shake them a bit- I walk away and allow others to take over…my babies drink a can of enfamil in 3 days and at the beginning we were using 10 diapers each a day, we are down to 7 each a day. I don’t get the luxury of exclusive breastfeeding or even trying as something always requires my attention- pumping is a chore also but I try to give them 2 of 8 bottles each in breastmilk daily and 6 bottles in formula.
Twins are cute and all but the first few weeks are a blur speaking from experience.
Don’t get me wrong- I love my lovebuds and wouldn’t trade them for the world, but I am just being honest.