So Someone Asked

I said I wasnt going to turn this blog into a mummy and me type situation and rightfully so…I don’t like to think of my existence as being consumed by any one role in my life be it my profession or relationship to others…but the last 5 weeks of my life have been as a mother to two beautiful baby girls…(I am allowed to be partial they are mine).

So you see in the last 5 weeks I have had varying degrees of help and when I tell you, you need a minimum of 3 people to take care of two babies…it can be manic if one doesn’t apply common sense. 

I thankfully sought advice from my older cousin who has twins and joined several twin boards. First thing i learnt was about scheduling- pretty much do the same things for them arond the same time. This was a pain initially because someone like their father always ran to feed and pick them up once they you can imagine the first week home we were essentially feeding someone at any given time and no one could remember who got fed or changed at what time. And my mom couldnt tell them apart, so she would say she fed A meanwhile it was B….

I went to the store and bought a note book…put four sections and time. Put it in everyones face – feed (type of food – formula, breast milk or breast fed -oz ), diaper – (wet or poo or both). That resulted in less confusion and understanding that one of the babies needed to stop snacking and actually eat…

Next I started baths in the evenings to get them on schedule even if they get messed up during the day. It worked in that I went from maybe 2 hours total of sleep a night  to about 4 on average and changing diapers at strategic times- 2x a night. 

As for having time for myself, its still a work in progress…I am slowly figuring it out…in that I dash out when they sleep. When they cry at the same time it’s somewhat challenging because I have to identify whose need is greater- sometimes the baby that cries the loudest gets my attention. And their cries are very different.

In the last 5 weeks, I have been pissed on, farted on, shat 😂on, vomited on etc. My section scar has healed for the most part- I really don’t feel the need to snap back body wise – even though i think i have lost 40 or more of maybe the 60lbs based off just running behind this twosome.

The key advice i have for anyone praying for twins- pray for grace and resources to take care of them…I have heard both my girls scream at the same time and I have wanted to cry or just shake them a bit- I walk away and allow others to take over…my babies drink a can of enfamil in 3 days and at the beginning we were using 10 diapers each a day, we are down to 7 each a day. I don’t get the luxury of exclusive breastfeeding or even trying as something always requires my attention- pumping is a chore also but I try to give them 2 of 8 bottles each in breastmilk daily and 6 bottles in formula. 

Twins are cute and all but the first few weeks are a blur speaking from experience.  

Don’t get me wrong- I love my lovebuds and wouldn’t trade them for the world, but I am just being honest.


16 Comments on So Someone Asked

  1. Yeye of Lagos // August 2, 2016 at 09:11 // Reply


    You are doing just fine.



  2. You’re the real mvp. Most people take longer to figure out twin schedules. I’m not a mum yet but I work with mums and it’s perfectly natural to want to cry or scream (or even do it into a pillow on occassion sef to relieve pressure lol). You’re doing great


  3. Awww, you’re already figuring it out and doing an awesome job. Your babies are so blessed to have you as their mum. I honestly don’t think I’ll be able to figure it out.

    If i were in your shoes, i will cry almost every day, i tell people i don’t want more than one at a time because i don’t think i will be able to cope. everyone laughs and thinks its weird but i know myself.


  4. Hang in there momma,you’ve got this! It’ll all be worth it in the end you’ll see.


  5. Well done ms pynk! More grace to you..
    I remember praying for twins and when I had my baby girl, I realized God knew what He was doing by not giving me twins.. New moms with twins are the real mvps!
    I hope you get as much rest as you can so you’re not fagged out.. My love to your beauties..xx


  6. My suggestion is head back to NG Asaph where you can have a nanny for each twin and get some sleep. Wishing you the best.


  7. You are doing an awesome job.


  8. But you know I’m still tapping into this twin matter. I’m all over it like jam on bread. From my mouth to God’s ears.

    Now just silently praying that God grants both my parents long life in good health so they’ll be the mvp babysitters of my future twins. Amen


  9. Btw ms. pynk.. Are the twins in the picture above yours? If yes, how do/did you wrap them up in such a way that one is not paranoid about them being uncomfortable?
    Thank you in advance for your response..xx


    • Yee dmbae those are my girls with their papa….i watched the you tube video on how to moby wrap twins but its very easy and the moby wrap is a bit stretchy…for the babies they hear a heartbeat and are comforted by the warmth of the adult


  10. Wow! They’re getting even more cute! Well done! I’m personally scared of responsibility that come with having twins. Thanks for being honest about it even with the Love.


  11. // August 4, 2016 at 12:54 // Reply

    More power to you OAD. yes when they get a little older in some months you might indeed need to get a nanny for each twin (or two nannies for the twins), and no you wouldn’t be able to be with them 24/7 so yes there are times you’ll need to leave them unsupervised with the nannies. It sucks but on the bright side you’re not a 9-5er so those times would be very few and far between. Besides, nanny cams would help here. Just take it a day at a time and know you’re very blessed to have supportive people around you, and a hands on husband. Babies can be work sha, but they are absolutely totally completely wholly undoubtedly indubitably very worth it. LOL.


  12. Well done Pink.
    It gets better with time.
    Being a mum is arguably the most difdicult job in the planet.


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