Hi everyone how goes the week? This topic today was inspired by someone; she knows herself. It should have been a discussion for a long time ago, but I kept forgetting.
So I have to ask, would you be willing to marry outside of your religion? I ask this question because it seems like for people whom religion is important – it’s an absolute no go area. In Nigeria – you tend to see a lot of mixed marriages from a religious standpoint – more often than not in our parents generation – many Christian women married muslim men. These homes the parents were not really dedicated to sunday worship or friday mosque – the Yoruba ones that I know. The Hausa couples – females followed their moms to church and boys followed daddy to mosque…then again Hausa women dont go to the mosque I hear.
I grew up in a 2 parent Anglican household and when I say my dad was confirmed in his 30s – religion was not exactly the order of the day. My dad always harped on folks being able to chose how they want to build their relationship with God and my mom is the “thank God for food and life” – prayer type. …the simple Oyinbo Christian type.
I personally don’t have a bias when it comes to religion – christianity and Islam does say do not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers. But it becomes a question of who is an unbeliever (because it is only God that truly knows us)? I dated more muslims than Christians and I would have married one if the husbandly traits were fully present. However I met the love of my life (yinmu) who happens to be catholic but not exactly the dominant type – I am the one that asks that we go to mass. I am yet to convert from being an “Anglican” as somehow to me God is God…dont ask. Lol.
For me – maybe because of the type of home I grew up in- the only thing off the table would be a devil worshipper or satanist. Aethiests may even be considered depending on the individual. I found God as an adult on my own, so I am not sure being dragged to church as a child was productive for my type of personality…i spent a good portion of sunday school time hanging out in the canteen that sold fanta next door – don’t ask.
So my question is if you meet a person that ticks all the right boxes for your requirements in a partner but they are a different religion, would you go ahead to date and marry them?
Please share your thoughts and feel free to quote any of the Holy books while at it. We are all learning.