To the bae-d and the bae-less…yes I made up the two words please sue me…the topic of discussion is friends of the opposite sex when it comes to your partner.
I am broaching this topic because I have had conversations with two people in different generations over the last two weeks and I realise it’s an issue for many people. Can your boy friend or girlfriend have friends of the opposite sex? Would it bother you? For the married folks do you have different standards for these types of relationships? Some folks dont mind their boyfriends having female friends and vice versa but when the title changes it is an absolute no go area.
As for me – I never give too many things much thought – I exist in a self created bubble and certain things have never been an issue. My husband has many female friends – my nickname for him is agony uncle – some of these friends I am very familiar with and he seems to attempt to do a good job when it comes to trying to make them “our friends”. None of these friends of his seem to be ever present every waking moment, which might be a reason why I havr no issues with it. I also believe he isn’t very comfortable with many of my male friends so I limit he information I share with him about such and I am not trying to make them “our friends” like he does. You can call it double standards, actually it is double standards- but if it is not broken why fix it?
Please share your thoughts on your significant other being good friends with members of the opposite sex.