Hey good morning folks. How are you doing? Well as for me I am doing “a-alright”! I was havig a conversation with a friend lately and the discussion came up that someone who got married less than 6 months ago is pregnant.
My friend and I are along the same school of thought – meaning waiting to introduce children into a marriage. We all know that if a marriage gets bad enough – you can undo it (separation, divorce and plain old walk away)! Children on the other hand you cannot undo. Many ills and such appear within the first year of marriage, delaying child bearing may help give folks a better idea of who they are dealing with- no?
I am of the belief that folks should give at least a year to their spouse in marriage before bringing in children if it can be helped. I feel as though it gives a chance to truly bond or find out what the other person is about. Provided the mother to be is not older than 35 as her risk becomes more pronounced in pregnancy. Introducing children into a marriage early can have different results, for some people it brings them together, for others it forces them to stay together for the kids when neither or is happy.
No matter what anyone says, children change the dynamics of every marriage as most mothers struggle to balance their affection for the children with that for their spouse. Many pregnant women often forget about their husbands during pregnancy, talkless of after birth.
Are you married and did you start having kids right away? Is it society that makes folks want to pop babies right away? Or am i just weird and the sole purpose of marriage is to reproduce?