So thank God for social media – the good the bad and the ugly…if you are having a bad day- sign on to instagram or twitter or even your favourite blog- something is bound to make you smile. However on a daily basis I keep seeing marital woes abi it is chronicles.
Most of these chronicles are from Nigerian couples – ranging from the “my wife is insultive” to “my husband sleep with the househelps”. While there are problems with marriage around the world, I am starting to take particular offense to the Nigerian scenario. Let me explain.
Most Nigerians believe the validity of their marriage lies in it being conducted in a religious establishment – church or mosque. To be married in a church or mosque in Nigeria, you must undego counselling. Please if you married in a church or mosque without being counselled- mention the name – some people may want to do the same.
Now what I want to ask is what they teach in counselling- I ask this because of the alarming rate at which we hear very sad and disturbing marital tales. Who is going to counselling and is it really helping people have better marriages?
I refused to get married in a church in Nigeria for 2 reasons – I wanted an Anglican ceremony to Honor my upbringing- my husband is catholic (by the Catholic church we aren’t married 😅)…and i have no interest in marriage counselling (i like to believe personally that I know the difference between whats appropriate and what’s not – I have enough grey hair- now whether or not I choose to do it is a different ballgame)..
So thankfully I was on the same page with my fellow who didn’t see why counselling was necessary. ..we agree to talk through our emotions and be adults about our behaviour towards each other….and accepting responsibility for whatever actions we each choose to exhibit.
My question to those who have been to marriage counselling in Nigeria, did it do anything for you? No I am not having a change of heart, i am just curious. For the singles and aspiring to marry’s would you be willing to go or not go to marriage counselling?
Winners Wednesday is still HERE