When you decide you want to get married how much investigating do you do? How well do you know the person or how do you investigate. I mean we keep hearing horror stories about spouses after marriage etc.
The prompt for this post is one gist like that I heard recently. So young woman meets young man…guy seems to be doing ok, from a decent family etc. They get married in 2013 or thereabouts. Next thing in early 2015, EFCC shows up and picks the guy up for fraud and extradites him to the UK. In the process they find the same dude is wanted for murder in the UK which was committed 10 or more years back. Gbam, August 2015 dude is sentenced to life in jail in the UK. Wife is left with one child to cater for in the midst of all the confusion (wife had no clue about his past or present, husband went to office daily etc). This story is real and has been on blogs…the dude’s arrest and sentencing.
My question is how do we vet the people we intend on settling down with, without leaving stones unturned and not overdoing it? When I met my husband the first thing I did was to google him, but google doesn’t really tell a quarter of the story. I also ensured to a certain extent his lifestyle and intellect matched his said education and background. I met the family and made my own deductions about them etc. And I was also careful to observe how much of his life he was willing to share with me.
All that I have stated above are far from foolproof methods, but what is one to do? How do you know if your intended is the head of a drug ring, has prior convictions, is a former drug addict, is related to the devil etc? How? It’s relatively easy for folks to leave the west and reinvent themselves. I know of a convicted rapist who after serving is it 10 years in a UK jail that has reinveted as a restauranteur. Likewise there is a former convict who is now a car dealer that jogs around Lekki- his wife is quite proud of him and their mansion…them full ground for instagram with their luxury lifestyle.
So my question now is how do you identify these people if you have no interest in joining vows with them? If you don’t have access to the dark web, and you don’t want to ask every tom, dick and harry about them- what is the way forward?
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