Happy Tuesday everyone.. for some reason this week is an extremely busy one for me, but I feel upbeat. I want to speak today on social media Etiquette – two things in particular announcements of deaths or births.
With the advent of every updatable thing possible from BBM, to whatsapp to instagram to blogs etc, folks announce everything. I lost a childhood friend on Saturday Morning in the Airforce crash and by the time blogs had carried the stories, BBM status’ had been updated…his mother had not been informed. I think people need to relax on this…updating your bbm status will not change your grief or bring the person back…but within those first at least 24 hours- the family has an entitlement to hear the news properly…not from another person’s bbm or blog or instagram. On CNN and the likes when they announce deaths they rarely ever mention names if the next of kin has not been notified.
The said mother in question had already lost a child a few years back, the message had to be crafted to be delivered to her. I can imagine after it hit the blogs folks probably called his siblings overseas to offer their condolences. Keep in mind the crash happened while America was asleep.. that’s not a good way to hear about a family member’s departure.
Likewise birth announcements…until the father or mother of that child places a status on their social media, please do not announce a birth on their behalf because you are privy to that information. It’s just not right.
I am saying this as someone who has been on the side of losing a young family member. Grief in the initial stages is a very very private matter. Allow them the space to receive the news properly. No one wants to get online and find their sibling is dead or had a child. Or a parent is dead etc. Its not right and it’s inhumane.
People with trigger fingers, it’s not everything you share…because you want to be consoled…i grew up in the 90s and we didn’t record every of our waking moments and we survived. If you don’t update your status you aren’t going to die, may we not kill other human beings in the process of oversharing these days.
If you are guilty..i plead with you to stop, if you are not…keep vigilant and disciplined. Please what are your thoughts on social media and the sharing of death and birth announcements?