There shall be showers of blessings all over us and in our lives. Shout Amen! But I am not here to discuss those types of showers today. I am talking about bridal and baby showers and the new trends with Nigerians. Showers are supposed to be a way for the bride or expectant mother to spend time with her friends before the birth of her child or her wedding. The goal is to bring her tokens or gifts in the said setting and send her off on her journey with well intentioned advice.
Nigerians – yes I said Nigerians are beginning to take the matter too far. People are asking now asking their friends to bring as much as a full tank of petrol equivalent in cash to celebrate the celebrant. While I understand people have themes and all these fashion ideas- we need to cut the shit out. Yes I said shit. Nobody should ever be asked to pay or contribute financially towards a shower. It is off putting. Better approach is to donate effort or materially towards a shower…what do I mean?
Someone can offer up their home as a venue or pay for a venue. Someone else can offer to decorate, others can offer drinks, cakes etc. The personalised touch is what makes a shower. It also doesn’t leave you resenting the celebrant. If anything it gives the celebrant a better appreciation of those around her. I had two bridal showers depsite not wanting any- i don’t care much for people spending on my behalf..for me its an imposition. Both events were held in homes – both self decorated and self catered. The Lagos one i told the organiser no gifts. .. people’s presence is enough for me. These things are meant to be a send off for the celebrant not a burden on others.
My maid of honor was not able to attend the showers so she opted for a spa day that she organised and fully sorted out by herself…my point being..only people can determine how they want to spend their money. Don’t impose on them.
A friend sent me a message she received from a bride’s sister about the bridal shower and her contribution was to be N10k…while N10k isn’ta lot of money to make anybody rich, its an unnecessary imposition on people..especially when you consider a culture where we have aso ebi and other associated costs of attending weddings. If a certain type of party is important to you the planner or to the bride or celebrant – its not a crime for them to pay for it themselves.
To me it feels more like folks are doing it for the ‘gram and websites which publish these pictures.
Please share your thoughts on the trend wih showers these days. Do you feel folks are not being true to the idea behind showers?
A Turkish couple got married and instead of having a reception with friends and family – they opted to share their day feeding 4000 Syrian refuges….the moment we lose hope in humanity – stories such as this spring up and give us hope…HERE
Winners Wednesday is still HERE
I am have increased the winners to 3 people since I have enough items for 3 people – two other winners will get variations of broaches and earrings. So feel free to enter.
Have a wonderful week…