The person who has everything. ..we all know one if not more of these type of people. I have been accused of falling into that category and truthfully I always got confused when people label me as that.
I honestly do not believe that anyone has everything as there is no such thing as a perfect life. My closest friend has always accused me of having it together even when I have fully articulated my lack or confusion depending on the circumstances. I have dated someone who refused to ever buy me anything as a gift because “I have everyhing”. In his own words- “what do you give someone that has everything”?…To me he was just lazy if you ask me, of course the situation didn’t last too long…I don’t care buy me suya, cake, ankara, something- anything.
There is no such thing as having everything or knowing everything. There however is something called Grace which comes with a certain level of peace. I am not someone that obsesses over any material items- its very rare for me to attach my emotion to an item or a decision, because at the end of the day those things are just that. A bag is a bag, shoes are shoes, likewise decisions are decision – I give them my best and most thought out shot and deal with the outcome later.
I generally sleep well at night because my emotional aloofness leaves me feeling very light. A friend got a job she believed she was overqualified for one time, it included setting the rates for the company’s entire services and she called me in a panic – and i asked her the worst that could happen – rates would either be too low or too high? She would adjust it from there.
I am a firm believer of ownership of decisions and positions. I can run down a mental list of the things that I dont have, but the list will likely even change by next week with the exception of maybe money. So of what benefit is it shouting or making a production of the said lack and wrong decisions I have made? Contrary to belief I am not sitting in a corner with a smirk on my face thinking i got it together, rather I seek many more ways to attach my feelings to very little by the way of material things and ownership of my decisions.
Its the same way I never ask for gifts on my birthday because I almost never conclusively feel the need for anything. The older i get, the more I practice how to live on less and just savour my life experiences in general. Material things catch fire (ask people who have experienced fire), every decision cannot be the right one etc.
I am a woman- i accept the woman I was, I respect the woman I am and I embrace the one I aspire to be. I also take ownership of my decisions whether right or wrong and accept that I won’t always get it right and that’s perfectly ok.
PS: there is no such thing as having everything, however there is contentment with whatever it is we have. That simply means no begging, no borrowing unless it’s a life threatening situation, manage the bit you have and move on.
Funny stories about two people that appear to have everything- Mr. Pynk aka Robot is one of those and I always buy him the Chocolate covered Oroes and place them at his home office desk. Its a very small gesture, but he totally loves them. They are less than N1k for the pack. Now is that someone that has everything? He even rations how he eats them… he reminds me of my dad- i found my dad’s spot was for books, despite not being a gazillionaire it takes an awful lot to get my dad excited. One time I went out of my way to buy him an expensive watch and he never wore it because he forgot it existed. But he has read everybook I have bought him and always wants to discuss them.
Have you ever been guilty of accusing someone of having everything or even thinking anyone person has it together? Can it be said that many human beings are much simpler than we realise?