Yes, you read that correctly. Your virginity is WORTHLESS, yes i screamed it. It is worthless, no one is going to commend any young woman for keeping her virginity, there is no prize for it. Now let me explain what brought this post on. I am in my 30’s and i come across many young women, who pride themselves in being virgins, but they always seem to get confused when things go wonky. I read something on a popular blog, the lady felt slighted her husband kept pictures of his exes, and because he married her a virgin, she didn’t deserve that type of treatment.
You married as a virgin, why did you preserve your said virginity? If you did it for your own sanity and God, then i will tell you congratulations. However if you did it to give your husband a gift, not many people are deserving of gifts oh. Learn that because you married as a virgin does not mean your husband will all of a sudden have more respect for you. If he is lousy, he will cheat. His behaviour is what it is irrespective of the status of your hymen.
Preserving virginity doesn’t necessarily mean you wont get an std. Hell your husband can bring it home to you if he is in the category of men stated above. Infertility is also not a function of virginity status, people talk about virgins waiting for children, what has your hymen got to do with your hormones and sperm aligning? A disrespectful man combined with a virgin might even be worse than a prostitute trying to marry an honest man.
Why are you a virgin? Are you doing it for yourself? If yes, then carry on. Are you doing it for God? If yes then carry on. Are you doing it for a man, so he will see you in a better light? Shoro Niyen? Men marry retired prostitutes and still respect them; even worship the ground they walk on, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. The human mind is messed up like that. The truth of the matter is that no one owes you a damn thing because your hymen is intact or you haven’t had intercourse. And for the others who blur the lines on virginity, you are not a virgin if you are a master at oral sex or anal and other such activities.
So to the young women out there, preserve your virginity if it is important to you, however do not expect everyone else to be indebted to you because you preserved it. Rather look for a respectful person to share this self preservation with, so that the person may willingly understand your sacrifice. There is no prize or price for virginity, so make sure you are making your choices for the right reason. I am for keeping your legs closed for the right set of reasons, however your virginity is worthless to almost everyone except God and you.
Please share your thoughts on the expectations some young women have on virginity.
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