So technically since i didnt date anyone before my husband, *ahem ahem coughs and keeps typing* lets talk about dating. Sometimes i feel like i want to go out on a date, maybe just to remind myself that the dating world can be a dangerous minefield. Note i said dating, not relationships.
My first date with my husband lasted five hours, we were gisting and laughing for five hours over sushi in Lagos. Don’t worry i am not going to tell you i knew he was the one, because frankly i didnt have a clue. I was recovering from feeling broken, and i didn’t realise it was a romantic date even. I just thought “oh hey, he thinks i am cool and wants to hang out”. So i let him pick me up; i own a car but i am averse to driving especially if i am not sure of the parking situation.
We hung out everyday for about 3 weeks after and then he told me he liked me. Imagine my surprise, i was like “little ol’ crazy me? Are you sure”. Lol.
Dating is hard for most people because they want to be on their best behaviour etc. The simple truth is, its best to absolutely be yourself, that way when the super comfortable you shows up, the other party isn’t too confused or thinking you deceived them. I am all for keeping things simple, most especially if you are looking for a lifelong partner. Keep conversation light, but make sure your opinions are representative of you, so in the long run you are not left defending yourself.
A first date doesnt have to be wow either, but please don’t go to any man’s house on a first date. No matter how broke he is, he should be able to buy you fanta or ice cream from a joint near his house. If he can’t accommodate that simple request, he has no business dating.
This week’s giveaway is two regular tickets (N3k *2) to see THE SINGLE IN GIDI STAGE PLAY at Terra Kulture in Victoria Island, Lagos. Please leave a comment on why you should win these two tickets – you can leave an awkward dating experience even. Also tell us who you would be taking with you to see the play if you win the tickets… take note of the show times and dates. I will pick the most entertaining and original comment. The last day for commenting on this post to qualify for the tickets is June 09 2015 midnight.
Let me famz small, i know the mega brain behind “single in gidi” and this is my own little way of supporting her effort.