Dont be scared, its merely a question. Are you operating on a negative in life? Are you utilising your God given gifts properly? Have you even identified them to begin with? I ask these questions because i have been forced to think.
So someone came to my mom to announce his wedding. Now this guy got a job at some tv station and was earning N30,000 a month as a graduate 6 days a week. He obviously wasnt balanced financially or emotionally, given that he spent the entire salary commuting to work. My mom was asking him if he wanted to be in entertainment and why he even took the job to begin with. He was obviously doing what i refer to as “operating on a negative”. After that job, what time does he have to develop himself? There is barely anytime to even think, talkless of develop himself. From my own point of view the guy needs an “extra brain”, because how will he provide for a family under such circumstances?
What is your quality of life like? I will ask a multitude of questions to get us all thinking.
1) Do you enjoy what you do to earn a paycheck on a regular basis?
2) Are you generally happy? If not what is your biggest source of stress? – say happiness 5x, then repeat it without the “Ha”-.another 5x!
3) How long is your daily commute to and from work?
4) Will you be happy doing the same thing you are doing now in 10 years? If you had the chance would you be doing something else?
5) Are you even good at your job? If not are you keen on improving?
6) What do you believe your purpose on earth is? Are you remotely living any part of it? Do you understand your gifts?
7) Do you have any money left after your commute? Can you save? Can you build an emergency fund?
I ask these questions because i have noticed there is a fundamental difference between my American friends and Nigerian friends in terms of aspirations and desires. The guy i mentioned above might do better as a driver within an organisation like Uber- forget he went to university. Or even as a baker, a writer etc or as a social media strategist etc.
There just seems to be a rot in Nigeria whereby many people assume they go to university and a job automatically follows. Hellooooo- the purpose of university is to help you think, you actually use very little of what you learn unless you are highly technical. Parents also dont help matters, encourage your child to search beyond a job and look for opportunities instead. You hear some people talk about how they have been trekking from Berger or Ajah to Victoria Island to submit CVs for 5 years. After year 1, year 2- they didnt borrow themselves brain? The companies they are hustling to work for was built by someone, no?
Many of the wealthiest people in recent times are not even producing goods- they are selling ideas. How many people get paid on twitter to retweet or instagram for ads? They sit in the comfort of their homes and do these things.
People can use a lot of things they didnt know they needed! Did we know we needed facebook years ago? Or instagram? Or twitter? I am using the obvious examples. There are so many things to do in Nigeria, that all you have to do is identify a need even you have and you can fill it.
I use to make a lot of noise about not having any gifts or talents. It is in the recent years that i began to look at myself a lot closer and i realised i do have gifts and i have to work on developing them. I am extremely good with calculations and number manipulations – I love working with numbers, but i dislike the corporate finance environment (i did it for 11 years). I love helping to conceptualise businesses, it excites me and helps me learn. I like to teach people stuff, myself included- hence my lists.
And lastly i have an off the cuff sense of humor. Not dark, just ridiculously unusual. And it helps me get through times and also make my learning process easier. I think i overwhelm my husband sometimes with this awesome gift of mine. One of my brothers calls it a “rubbish sense” of humor and my husband says i am the “smartest airhead he knows”. Today the dtsv went out and was showing the black and white grain screen, so i told hubstar -the tv was doing “shreeeeee”! Dont front like you dont know the sound. Lol.
I like to write – you wont find a Phd thesis on this page- you are more likely to find a little bit of everything mashed together. Its like a cupcake with sprinkles all over the frosting and the surprise caramel or chocolate on the inside. Maybe even almonds…
I am almost ashamed to say this is my 6th or so blog in the last 10 years. I always ended up deleting them, this one is super public now, so i am unlikely to pull the trigger on it- and i am getting a lot of encouragement. I write about the things i would like to read, and after a while- “tonto dike setting unpaid merchandise on fire” doesnt make for good reading, neither does it help me think. Think about it this way, i get to have conversations with many people without using too much credit. Lol. And i learn a lot.
Its a lot easier to hone our talents and gifts when we find people to mentor us and mentor others coming behind in the process. I have 50 year old friends and i am making new ones in teens and 20s too. One thing working in Iraq has done for me is help me learn how to surround myself with people i can share my crazy ideas with. People who can help me better mould these ideas.
On that note i leave you with one of my favourite self quotes “life can be likened to using a public toilet with heels on, either you fall into the sh*t or you stay above it” -OAD.
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