Is there such a thing as a pure race or pure tribe anymore? The answer to this is pretty obvious, at least it seems so to me. However, lets still have a dialogue. Look at yourself or even your neighbor, how many people do you know that have two parents from the same exact race? Plenty you say, lets try those with two parents from the same exact ethnic group, you can still find some, how about those who have two parents from the same exact village? You see how much more interesting it gets.
I dont understand where the practice of hatred comes from. I am back to the xenophobia matter. I grew up in a household with two parents that are as different as day and night. From looks to cultural beliefs to even general attitudes. My mom thinks we are home girls and she calls me “miss OAD”, my father on the other hand i must say Sir to. I say “whats up” to my mother and i say “good morning sir” to my dad. My mom swears a grilled cheese sandwich is appropriate as a meal, my dad thinks its an appetizer to be followed up by amala with ewedu. My mom stil tried to offer me a peanut butter and jelly sandwich when i went to visit her this weekend- in this same Lagos that traffic drains all your energy. I cant bellyful on that one now! Haba! You get my point, I grew up in a very unassuming environment; many things were fair game with the exception of not stealing, not lying and respect for everyone else.
So how do people find space to hate anybody? In recent times some top Nigerians have called for retaliation against South Africans. The South Africans have temporarily closed their Nigerian Mission due to fear of retaliatory attacks. Another Doctor who was erroneously granted a visa by the United States Embassy who currently resides in Texas- Dr. Abraham Ariyo called for attacks on Igbos after the Lagoon Speech. Forgetting he himself is a migrant where he currently lives. Please feel free to sign the petition against him. The South Africans are still attacking any and every foreigner in their path.
All that said are people to forget so quickly the effects of slavery? Or is it Hitler and world war two? Do we not learn? The primary people that benefit from wars are the arms manufacturers. Nobody else. when we fight ourselves based on ethnicity, race, religion etc – it never ever ends well. What do we stand to gain? Aren’t we all alike in one way or another? What is with the classification anyways? Maybe because i have never had the luxury of placing myself in a box, what gives?
We can define nationalities and ethnicity all we want, but purity has been racing out of the window for centuries and it continues to beg the question of whata are we really on about?
I have people who ask me if I am Igbo – i don’t get offended, i have people who think i am fulani, i dont get offended either. I have been asked if i was Mexican before. Let me see if i can even explain my mom is is black (slave), mixed with caucasian (german irish), Indian (Arawak), Arab ( Lebanese Syrian) and my dad is Nigerian Yoruba. What does that look like? It looks like me and my siblings. I wonder sometimes if i am going to tell my children anything outside of them being Nigerian and possibly American. Unfortunately or fortunately for me, i married a man who has a Black (Nigerian & Ghanian) mixed with Caucasian ( Scottish) and Latino (Spanish) and a Nigerian father (Edo), so is there anything to tell my kids? One of my brothers is married to a black and south American Indian lady (in theory, his sons are technically 1/4 Nigerian)- but what do you tell the kids? Another one of my brother is married to a half Nigerian half anglo Indian Lady- what should he tell his kids? Another brother is married to someone who is one quarter Italian and other parts Nigerian, what do you tell the kids? I proudly say it, my family is like a mini United Nations – it leaves very little room for judgement of anyone based on anything ourside of character. I know many such people, i have met half Nigerian- half South Africans, half Malaysians etc. Christian and Muslims parents, Igbo and Yoruba parents etc.
Is it possible for such people to practice hatred? Hatred against who? In my opinion, the world has gone global, people should stop getting left behind in their life practices. The world is moving forward, the room for hatred is very small, peope shoud stop growing the gap. Its not necessary. Let learn to teach our children self-love so they dont hate themselves and in turn end up redirecting that hate at others. Do not encourage your children into boxes, lest they get life behind by the rest of the world.
Hatred is for Pansies, be a winner and start practicing love, it doesn’t cost a damn thing.
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