Thank goodness the Orekoya Boys have been found. Now lets speak honestly on domestic help in Nigeria. Very few people are willing to admit that domestic help in Nigeria aren’t doing it out of their own freewill rather are working these jobs due to poverty. Everyone has cast blame on the parents of the kidnapped children- well they owe protection to their children as they brought them into the world, they are accountable for their safety.
Lets address a few things
1) When hiring for an office, you don’t just employ anyone, talk less of for your children. Do not hire anybody off any website or an agent that you cannot vouch for. Stealing is easier to deal with than the kidnap of your children. You should be able to trace your help somehow.
2) Don’t let desperation drive you into hiring just anybody. We all have relatives – mothers, fathers etc, beg and blackmail to have your family members watch your kids if you have to.
3) if you are married and hell bent on working, please make sure your income or satisfaction justifies leaving those children at home with the help. I am talking to the women in this case. You are the only one that knows first hand how you struggled with your pregnancy and birth of that child. Sit down and tell yourself the truth.
4) Lets be frank, good help is often expensive. Paying someone N25,000 per month to take care of 3 children and clean your house is slavery. Make sure the level of work is commiserate with the pay. Pay a living wage and encourage your help to do more with their lives. You want to create a symbiotic relationship – offer to help the person with a par time degree or something. when you do so, the person will likely stay till the duration of the offer expires – if you have the same help for the first four years of your child’s life, its really a small price to pay. After all, per child for many day cares, you would pay easily anywhere between N30,000 for the extremely low end ones and about N100,000 monthly for the higher end day cares.
5) Do not expose your hep to everything in your house. let me explain this. If you are paying someone N20,000 per month – but you send them to the market to do N15,000 shopping every week, they see all the jewelry you have etc. These things are well worth more than their monthly salary. Try you best to limit exposure and keep your valuables out of plain eyesight.
6) Fortify your home – if it is camera’s, or instructing your security guard to make sure the help doesn’t leave the house with your kids etc.
7) Weigh it all, whatever it is you are leaving your house for on a daily basis, is it worth the risk?
8) There are a plethora of ways to work around help. Sometimes its wiser to just get a cleaning person who comes when you are home and leaves at that same times.
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