Hello all, how has the week been? Hopefully somewhat priductive? For someone who is in the middle of self employment and unemployment i seem to have a lot to do the next couple of weeks. Hmmm.
Anyway was having a conversation with my dad yesterday and he made a statement. .”in youth we chase death, in the later years death chases us”. It was in reference to dying because i said some man we know who is about 70 has one foot in the grave and out. So my dad proceeded to say i could die before the said man. In many ways it is an insightful comment as the constant in the conversation is death, earthly death as we know it.
It comes back to the point of us knowing we are going to die either way, it becomes a question of when and even how. So you start to question why we do things we hate because we want to get by, and we do these things indefinitely. Have jobs we hate, get married to people we dont like, stay married to people we dislike, have children we might not necessarily want, strive for Phds we dont intent to utilise etc.
You catch my drift. I stayed at a job i hated for 2.5 years with a boss i even hated more. And when you look at it, you wonder what the end game of that situation was. I still dont know to be honest. I think i was just letting life move me along instead of doing the reverse. I dated someone before my husband and frankly it was a dead end and i gave it 14 months of my life- i still get angry when i think about it.
If you are a believer in God, it is important to pray about our relationships and actions prior to undertaking them. We should seek out the grace to understand situations that will benefit or or benefit the other person in the least. Mutual benefits for all parties are not mutually exclusive, rather the right set of situations keep everyone emotionally balanced and more productive across the board.
I say it now, maybe because of age, finding your happy= contentment. Its important especially in this jungle town called Lagos and Nigeria in general.