So on playing catch up with the news this morning, it appears as though first world problems are really just that. How do you explain Japan one of the most dynamic and prosperous nations so to speak complaining about population decline? And countries like Nigeria are having serious issues with population control and birh deaths? I wont bore you with the statistics.
I sit and i think about it, i have people in my age bracket still having 4 kids. My parents had 4 kids and honestly 4 was a crowd. I am 3 years older than my immediate younger brother and i am child number 2. I remember holidiays at random. Meaning whenver my mom was travelling it didnt have to be summer, my older brother and i went along so long as it wasnt school time. I remember GRA ikeja – kingsway and leventis shopping. I remember having rainboots to match my raincoat and umbrella. I remember lunches at Mandarin Chinese resturant and sheraton ikeja on saturdays, sundays etc. I love my two younger brothers, but life changed when they came along. Gratefully our quality of education remianed the same but travel, family time etc sort of declined. My husband likewise is from a family of 5 kids, he is the 4th child. Similar experiences, his was traumatic as he was already used to being mommys baby and a baby showed up when he was 8.
My point is this, consider a middle class middle income household with two working parents. You want a decent life, wife makes n5 million for the year, husband makes n7 million. Thats n12 million annually . Lets give them a convenient lifestyle – meaning no 3 hour commute from Ajah to VI daily. So let say they find somewhere decent to rent in lekki a 3 to 4 bedroom, thats about n3 million per year. Add diesel or a service charge which is easily another n1 million. So thats n4 million. The average decent school where you will feel comfortable with your child even daycare is a minimum of about n80,000 to n150,000 per month. So i will give an averge of about n1.2 million per child for the year – uniform etc included. Now these are not ikoyi Corona or St. Saviours fees oh. So lets say you have 3 children, thats n3.6 million. So thats n7.6 million out of n12 million. Oh we havent paid taxes from the salary, i forgot that. We havent paid the nanny or housekeeper, neither have we paid for the driver or fuel or car maintenance. At the end of all these expenses, its a wonder if folks even have anything left for summer.
My point is this, at this point the “educated ” folks should reason that a child is a child right? Male or female? If you have 3 girls already, why the trying for a boy? Likewise you have two boys, will a girl make a difference? So you now end up looking around helter skelter to care for these kids and end up short changing them. Many times we say we want to give our kids the best, but is this true? Especially in a country like Nigeria? If its not a multiple birth situation, a 3 child cap should be put on Nigerians.
My next rant, all these blogs and instagram accounts that claim to be doing give aways and list multiple criteria- God is watching you in 3D. If you really want to give something away give it away in a simple way. Dont go asking people to follow you, your grandkids and all your ancestors on instagram and facebook, flickr , twitter etc. Likewise many people have private profiles, they dodnt want to show their whole life to the world, but you are asking them for likes? I generally dont like to announce giveaway winners, i just dont feel it is necessary. Give and move on, contact your chosen winner privately. All this horse and dog show pomp and pagentry because you are giving out something.
Sorry i just had to. Hope Lent is coming along for you? If not life in general? If not, simply think Sunny on the inside and bringing the happy.