Life life life. Oh nothing revealing, i hope your week started off well? I was having a conversation with a few people and we were talking about pressure. Pressure from parents when we are young.
What am i talking about? If you grew up in Nigeria, everyone’s parents came first in their classroom? You tell that to a 5 year old instead of even trying to understand the kind of child you have? Or are we so competitive that we dont understand what pressure does?
When you hear of stories of young adults trying to comitt suicide because they failed exams and are afraid to face their parents, its a reflection on the parents if you ask me. Because at that point the child would rather not face their parent who is human.
What gives? We were discussing a fellow who jumped out of the window and landed on a car because he failed, his suicide attempt also failed – he is in a wheelchair for life. Someone else took his life because he failed a semester at Yale.
My thing is this though. We dont win every fight we show up to. We are not successful at everything we set our hands and minds too. So why dont Nigerian parents and some other societies understand this? If you look at many “successful” people, you will see a few failures in their pasts. So why cant we just work smart and dilligently and move on irrespective of the results?
I say come as you are and keep the happy. Just find the happy and keep it when you find it. Life isnt about “winning” its about living. Things rarely ever go as we plan, sometimes they actually turn out for the better.
Please share your thoughts on pressure. Pressure to be first, pressure to suceed, pressure to be best?