I know i have met my one quota post for the day. But i have to air my views on a few things today.
So i am in london town, fortunately for me UK border allowed me to enter. I guess they are tired of my ugly face. About 2ish my sis inlaw and i went to paddington station Sainsbury’s to grocery shop. We walked, its a 7 minute walk from the apartment abi flat like the Brits would say. We finished and headed to the burger king in the station,
The boys wanted kids meals. Why did we get home and the kids meals had no toys? I am sorry but whats the essence of a kids meal with no toys? Thats child abuse, highway robbery, deception i am short of words. Yes i am grossly offended, i was looking forward to seeing the toy you know. Fine the boys have other toys but its the principle behind it. Maybe its because we were black? Hmm……
On to my next issue, i was reading Brlla Naija jejely and i decided to open a vlog oh. It was something about marriage. I mention no names of the author, it started off with how everybody’s time for marriage was different and as soon i was getting ready to say “yes finally someone is making sense”, i got thrown for a loop. Confusion artists. The person proceeded to advise about how to get a man. Shior. It totally eroded all she had said at the beginning. I believe often times we have the best of intentions, but we confuse ourselves and others when we dont organise our thoughts. I am not one of those women who believe in “settling down” in the true sense of it. Marriage if it is for you happens at its own time. Too many people end up in bad situations due to haste or pressure either self created or society created.
I will use myself as a case study. I was engaged in 2010 to someone who i had no business being with. Six weeks to the traditional i called off the wedding. I realised i was managing and making excuses for him. It takes a certain level of stubbornness to do something like that in Nigeria. Marrying that guy would have sent me to jail, i might have killed him in his sleep. I was 28 at that point. I walked away from another situation where i thought someone was redeemable, i was 30. My two younger brothers who were born in 1985 and 1987 both have children and were married by 2012.
For me my happiness was paramount, i was comfortable in my own skin and living my own life. My husband came along when i least expected it and to be frank i went out on a date with him because i wanted free sushi and Japanese food from the japanese resturant on idejo in VI. We were there for 5 hours till 1am. i realised i needed to go to bed as i had to get up to run the next morning at 6.30am. Thats why we left.
This may be news, my husband is 14 months younger than me, he hates me saying it. I AM A PUMA!. I found out about 1 week after we met. I admired his accountability, level of responsibility and work ethic. Do i love my husband? Absolutely from the bottom of my heart, can i stand him 100% of the time? No not really. Maybe about 90%, i cant even stand myself all the time, i had to make peace with myself. My point is for the rest of my life (i have a nagging suspicion that i will live to be about 100), so another 70 years i maybe married to this person, its not beans. He hopes to die by 80 max and before me he says.
Ps: people who have lived reckless lives like me tend to live long. Lol.
Marriage can do one of two things for a human being, thicken your skin or erode it. My patience is higher than Kilimanjaro as i am right now. Five months into marriage my husband lost his older brother. There is nothing i can say to ease the pain, i have to let him cry in his corner, i have to make sure the situation doesnt completely erode our marriage and i also dont break down. I have to muster up supernatural powers and make sure i am there for him.
Look at marriage from my sis in laws point of view. Does anyone think they will be widowed at 35? After 9 years of marriage and left with two kids? Irrespective of the fact that those kids will be cared for financially, who hugs her at night?
The choice of who to share our most intimate moments with is a lifechanging decision not a hasty one to make. No one should make apologies for not settling, marriage if its for anyone will happen, all this go to church and be a worker, dont wear miniskirt etc to find a husband is pure garbage, strippers marry and so do porn stars.
The most important thing to me is being a good human being with a purpose and having a damn good time as i go through life. Every morning i want to be a better version of myself than i was the day before. And most of it is between me and my God.
I have sent out the n3k airtime credit and the n5k gift card for the5kshop.com
I am trying to think of what next to give away.