Thank God for new days. The family is coping, my husband and his uncle are making the funeral arrangements. Thank God for a life well lived, cut short at 37, but well lived nonetheless.
I have had to caution a few home visitors. Someone got to my sister in law and was crying. She has started accepting her husband is gone from earth, has broken the news to her kids etc. Who are we to cry more than the bereaved? Another woman came into my in laws house shouting who killed my son etc. Nigerians need sensitivity training. Its not a must to say anything, its ok to sit and hold hands, its ok to just hug the person. Its ok to let the person stare into space.
I have done my quota of crying for the week at least i wont cry in front of my husband. He cried on saturday nite and i am very worried about him, so i am almost his shadow. He is the one doing the running around, picking caskets etc with his uncle. Their breakdowns are coming, it is imminent. I just pray for God to give us all strength and his grace. You dont realise how expensive funerals are, morgue bills, casket cost, plot costs etc. Its horrible burying a young person, i have a horrible fever but i am not telling my husband because i dont need him worrying about me.
I really wasnt going to do any post this week, but i realise Sifo would have wanted us to be happy somewhat that he is no longer in pain. We loved him, but God loved him more. Once the funeral is over next week, we all need to go away and just relax in a peaceful environment. I will likely shuffle between NY and london for the next few months with my husband. I just want peace for him.
We were supposed to go on a pseudo honeymoon next month, i am trying to see how i can utilise my limited resources to make things better for him and the kids. God always provides.
The school is on hold till March, my family needs me.
I found this link on Linda Ikeji’s blog, and as usual with anything Tony Elumelu, its not clear exactly what they are providing to entrepreneurs in terms of seed capital and what the limit etc. It might be helpful to someone.
Please continue to keep us in prayers aa tuesday and Wednesday next week are the wake and funeral respectively.