It is thanksgiving for my American Family, by default – me and my immediate family. The older I get, the harder I think about things, should we really be thanking God for the Pilgrim’s descendants taking over the land of the Indians? I mean these same pilgrims don’t think black deserve equal rights in America in 2014. In line with my general life theme, I will give thanks today, there’s no turkey, but there is a lot to be grateful for. My person is back in the hospital, potential diagnosis is very very worrisome, all the family members are together to seek the best way out. We pray for the Doctors to collectively find a diagnosis and effectively treat him. God is ever faithful.
Was out for the better part of yesterday, I finally picked up the foreign ground coffee hamper from Shoprite. My husband saw it; I think he is way too distracted to appreciate it now. I am happy to have won, and thank goodness I stumble upon it on www.sisiyemmie.com. The hamper has 10 bags of coffee from different countries, a grinder, and like a percolator type thing, totally awesome. My husband is quite the coffee connoisseur if I may say so, so I know he will get around to it soon.
I stopped by a friend’s office to say hello and see how they could creatively help me raise some funding for the school. Anyways as usual we got into private life. He did something to his wife – he slept with another chic, and his wife found out. Anyways she flushed her rings down the toilet, we will get to the cost later. And she moved out of the house, she also told her sister and pretty much the whole world about it. Her people were posting pictures of him and the babe on Instagram because they were in a joint picture together at a wedding. Anyways the whole thing was devastating, they are working on making up now. Ironically one of her friends that was telling the wife to leave him, told him if he needed anything to let her know.
I am not permissive of infidelity, not at all, but women – stop discussing your marital issues with girls and friends. I will explain why I say this; the advice to post the pictures on Instagram and disgrace him came from a girl, a woman will not advice you to handle your business that way, two there are friends who are so miserable they might actually want your life, so all they have to do is get you out of the way. Mothers generally have our best interest at heart, no matter how close you are to his mother, unless it is extremely serious, please don’t report him to his mother abeg, if you need someone to talk to, talk to your mother. If your mother isn’t available talk to a level headed aunt.
She is obviously back home with him, she has given the world the license to disrespect her husband and the father of her child. Indirectly she has also disrespected herself because she visibly went back to the situation. I know her husband fairly well, he is a town guy, and this is his first mishap that I am aware of. I say mishap, because can you really throw the baby out with the bath water? He is a good husband in many other ways, so lets be practical announcing to the world is not the answer. Instilling fear is more effective than reporting the person to the world. Yes you are angry, but keep your business inside; the people that are quickest to advice are generally the ones that don’t have your interest at heart.
His wife wants them to go to counseling, he is worried that they wont get a neutral counselor, so I told him to find an American marriage counselor than can Skype with them or Google hangout type thing. I am not a fan of many Nigerian churches in terms of counseling, because I believe they don’t cater to everybody and there is too much God factor, they tend to give blanket advice and butter up everything with the God factor. Yes God loves us, but he isn’t going to hold our hands every minute, he gave us brains so we could think and understand. And both parties need to heal, because in the process of fighting each other, they both have damaged each other.
The pink necklace is still up for grabs, so someone please win the thing. Ikoyi or VI drop off only, but you can pick it up in Ikoyi. In the spirit of thanksgiving, I have added two N500 recharge cards, so indicate what you want in your comment when you post your email address.
Lastly I want to thank everyone for reading my blog, as I know I take precious time out of your busy days.