Nigerians please come and answer for me this question. Why are we obsessed with weddings? I say weddings, because i don’t believe we have a healthy marriage culture in this country. Any small thing a woman does wrong, “ehn its because she hasn’t married”. Even in a fight between two colleagues, being married makes one right. So imagine my amusement when i saw this map allegedly credited to Business Insider on what people in certain countries searched for – you guessed right, Nigeria search for…….. drumroll ….. weddings.
Yes Nigerians are really that obsessed with weddings. At least you would think it would stop there right? The picture below was posted on Instagram, and folks went in on the couple as to their having a child out of wedlock. Below are some of the comments left on this picture that is beyond adorable…
Is it your business? Marriage inst the be all and end all for many people. Marriage isn’t going to automatically change anyone’s life – neither is a wedding. If anything, many people who aren’t careful end up letting the actual wedding breed unhappiness in their marriage – think overspending. Nigerians with this you must marry attitude- are many of the people that are married happy? I hear so many horror stories from friends and acquaintances alike that i am always prompted to ask why they married the person they are complaining so bitterly about. Or do we have issues with our expectations?
I am married but i choose to keep drama to a minimal – i have no interest in being committed to a mental institution at any point in my life. My life is God, Me – the better i am as a woman, the better i can serve those i profess to love. I see people who describe themselves on Instagram “wife, mother, entrepreneur”. While i understand all that, the need to be me comes first. “I cant be anything to anyone if i am not everything to myself” – OAD.
Share your thoughts on our wedding obsessed country.
PS: If you own a business and you don’t cater to weddings, you might not be making money in this Nigeria. Maybe i should start featuring weddings (hahaha not in this lifetime abeg).