Well happy day, we all woke up this morning. To those who Santa hasn’t visited, are you sure? Because you didn’t open a physical gift doesn’t mean you weren’t visited, life is a gift remember.
So we all get into situations on the friendship code. A friend of mine Timi called me yesterday to ask for advice. One thing about me is I am outspoken if I like you as a human being. I will tell you the truth outright, for all others I will skirt around the bush. Timi calls to say his friend Tunde who moved to America from the UK just got engaged to Walia; half Nigerian, half carribean babe. Tunde was going on and on about how the girl is mixed race etc. Almost every carribean and black American person is mixed race, there was this thing called slavery. Even my grandmother looked white with negro hair. So Timi realises the description of the babe is familiar, given the town Tunde moved to. Timi and Tunde are very close, but geographic distance means they chat etc. Timi also just had a baby with his wife 2 months ago, so he has been off the grid a bit. Tunde emailed Timi the proposal pictures.
Now Timi opens the email and finds out that it’s the same babe that his friend Lance was married to about two years ago. Not only that she has slept with about 4 other guys that Timi knows. She ran down Lance for about $30,000, cheated on him – got caught giving another guy a blow job in a car. Also another one of the guys she was sleeping with was married, so she would pay for hotel rooms near to his house just to have sex with him.
Don’t worry I didn’t make his stuff up. Now the big question is should Timi tell Tunde all he knows or keep quiet? Timi’s wife told him to keep quiet, Timi wasn’t sure and decided to call me. My husband thinks the Bro code is necessary, tell all you know. My thought process is Timi should simply say to Tunde, “her description sounded very familiar, she used to be married to my friend Lance”. Tunde’s reaction to this statement will determine how the rest of the conversation should go. Because I mean the young woman in question (Walia ) might have turned a new leaf, or better yet she might have also disclosed the necessary to Tunde.
So your thoughts please?
Another true life story. Mary met Bode, and disclosed to Bode that she had cervical cancer in the past and ovarian failure etc and that child bearing would be hard. Bode accepted and went to the Doctor with her and saw the entire thing and even spoke to the doctor etc. Someone Mary had confided in the past decided to sabotage her. After all how did Mary find a man (eligible pedigree bachelor in Lagos ) who worships the ground she walks on even though doctors have told her she might not have a child.
Danielle the old confidant decided to attempt to ruin Mary’s situation a second time. She caused the breakup of Mary’s previous relationship by telling the ex that he would never have children with Mary…that was bad enough that the ex’s mother told Mary how her son confided in her. The woman knelt down and begged Mary to accept her son back, but Mary declined. Anyways Danielle decided to try her luck with Chuks one of Bode’s closest friends. Chuks went to do Bro code and told Bode that Mary had so many abortions that she couldn’t have kids. It was an epic backfire because remember Mary was open and took Bode to the doctor and when they do scans they can tell from the uterus scan if a woman has ever been pregnant before. The doctor lamented about how small Mary’s uterus was and explained that Mary’s situation was one of those 1 in 100,000 cases and couldn’t be explained simply etc. Of course a fight ensued between Chuks and Bode. Almost 20 years of friendship down the line. Mary begged Bode to restore the friendship. Chuks was a groomsman at their wedding. Mary was vindicated. In this case the Bro code gist was sour and almost cost a friendship.
Now my blog reads like a tabloid. Lmao!
Anyways what should Timi do please?
I was supposed to go to primark I don’t remember what I needed to buy. Old age is setting in. Lol.
Have a fantastic Saturday.